Saturday, July 28, 2012


CapricornCapricorn (12/22-1/19)   The line between yourself and others is widening right now, as you are entering a phase of solo introspection. This is something to embrace, not to be worried about. Even if your social life has not been extremely active lately, you will relish the discrepancy between what is going on in your own life and what is going on in the lives of other people around you. This is your chance to step back from the world and bow out of social obligations. Get used to greater freedoms.  

I don't normally pay attention to horoscopes, but this one holds some good advice for me at this stage in my life. I am transitioning out of work, at least mentally.  I find myself disinterested in any events going on there.  I just do my job and go home to my "real" life.  My social life has  been non-existent for months.  My closest friend has family obligations that restrict her available time.  I have not been dating for a year now.  I've had contact from a couple of men, but I don't encourage them. I have felt the need to "step back from the world."  My social interactions are mainly my kids and grandkids.  Otherwise, I seek a lot of solitude in my own home and yard and in wild places where I can find birds.

This is not a new state for me.  I've been through such phases before.  It often occurs during a period of transition.  I seem to need it in order to make mental adjustments to changes in life.  I embrace aloneness when I feel I need it.

Aloneness is not loneliness.  The first thing is more of a choice, something you can control.  The latter is an emotional reaction to the former.  

It's interesting to me that the last words of the horoscope say, "Get used to greater freedoms."  Aloneness in itself gives one greater freedom.  But I'm actually thinking more in terms of the phase after this, when I retire.


troutbirder said...

Perhaps this is why retirement has been every big as good as I'd hope for. Calmly reflected choices is being in greater control of our own lives. Financial security helps though... :)

Bekkieann said...

Yes, financial security is important in allowing us control over our own lives. I have done some careful planning and saving, and I think I will be okay. I have lived frugally for a couple of years now to test it out, and I haven't suffered at all. I'll be able to live well within my income and even continuing saving.

With just a few months till retirement, I find it harder and harder to squeeze in everything around that 9-hours devoted to work. How did we do it when we were younger?

How are you and Mrs. T doing these days? I enjoy your blog and stories of your adventures.

troutbirder said...

We're doing fine. I've decided to go ahead with the "ablation procedure" at Mayo for my A Fib. problem I'll have to wait till October though so I'll be out of breath till then... I loved teaching to the end (except for the redundent and useless paperwork) but wanted to move on to a new phase...:)

Bekkieann said...

Then take it easy till then, TB. There are many adventures ahead!